Magical Monday - Grief and Allowing

 Before anything else, even though I'm a professional medium and have been for 20 years now, all too well I know grief on a personal basis and a professional one.  Over the last many years I've had my parents, all of my brothers, aunts, uncles as well as cousins to cross over....and fur babies too.  In 2015 one brother crossed and less than ten months later another one crossed over, then two of my fur babies just a few months after that.  It was hard for me then so this is why I write abut this topic even though it doesn't feel like a "Magical" one.  

This comes from my heart and being to you in hopes it may help now or in the future.  

Blessings.....Ada

HAPPY MAGICAL MONDAY!!!!!!!

Yes, grief doesn’t sound Magical. When you are deeply in it, it sure doesn’t feel very magical. It hurts so very deeply and that certainly doesn’t feel magical.

What it does though IS magical in a way. Grief is a process or processes that help us to learn to relive and revive ourselves after a loss. It is a way of how we learn to do things again without that person in our lives any more. Grief gives us an outlet that helps us with our adjusting to life afterward. It’s a natural and normal process or processes that we, and all sentient beings go through.

This year on the media I watched a mother whale carry her dead calf for months because her heartache was so deep. Her pod stayed with her, guarding her and knowing to keep her safe. Personally I’ve watched birds, cats, dogs, and other animals grieve their young. It’s so natural most beings who are sentient do these processes.

Perhaps you’ve had your fur baby or feathered friend grieve their partner or friend? What did they do? I’ve seen also where fur people have played with ‘air’ as it looked but I could feel my fur baby in our home from the other side.

The day after Baby BW passed away I was still a mess. It was when I got into the shower and sat down in it crying that I felt the heavy paws he had had running from one end of our rig to the other! I also felt the back of the bed area go up and down. Heidiweeness hissed like she always did when he would do that! From all that ruckus I knew he was back and even though an accident took him, he came back to let me know he was OK. From time to time I see him out of the corner of my eye, thankfully.

We humans grieve our jobs, homes, relationships too. It can take us years to work through the processes of these times. Sometimes we become so lost because other losses happen in conjunction with the initial loss. I know this all too well from personal experiences.

Those events have redirected me in so many ways.

Sometimes we lose friends after a passing of spouse or partner. There are those that don’t know how to act or react when there is a loss. It hurt when our work mates and friends left me by the side lines. That was another kind of grief to add to the processes I was already going through. Remember it’s not “you” as the reason they do this. Sometimes there are a lot of doors that close in close succession so that new chapters of your life can open more fully.

Grieve it and do it well. This way you can get on with your life as it unfolds.

Today I do believe in throwing our all into grieving and allowing someone to do so. Too many times I’ve heard of people having to go back to work less than a week from a loss. WE NEED TIME to go through our grief and cannot rubber stamp it over and done. In centuries past we took months and sometimes years for us and our society to work through the process. Until the 1600’s professional mourners were hired in many cases more often than not. This process can take years for certain losses and being gentle and good to ourselves is one of the best ways we can work through it.

I’m going to add this here as my last tidbit for the day.

Your grief is as individual as your finger prints. A wise lady told me that a lot of years ago.

Your grieving times will be different for each passing. Some will continue for ages, others not as long.

There’s not just one way to grieve.

You cannot avoid grief without it causing you internal difficulties in your energy and body.

Find one or two friends or family members you can share things with as best as you can. Let their listening ears and open arms hold you steady when the winds of grief howl within you.

Allow yourself the time you need even as you start your new schedule and more in this new part of your life.

Your Loved Ones Are Thinking of You Too!

 

HAPPY MAGICAL MEDIUMSHIP MONDAY!!!!!!!

Remember your Loved Ones are really just a thought away

I often tell my clients that whenever you are thinking of your loved one, they are thinking of you.

My reason for this is because this is part of how they communicate with us.

Losing someone is never an easy gig. There are a lot of factors into each and every loss we have. Just so there are easier times that we connect without really knowing and harder times too. Grief and sadness are often two emotional reasons bound together that don’t let us feel/sense/see their side of this.

So often their communication with us is very gentle. It’s almost as if there was a tiny wind or movement that we can barely detect in our thoughts about them… It can feel deeper and more precious when their old memories come around.

One of our biggest issues is we’ve been taught they cannot communicate. It’s almost as if you have to be some special person to have that little snippet of closeness with them. You can have your family or loved ones thinking about you just as much as anyone like me.

This is including signs too. We all need them, including me. There fore if you have a wonderful memory pop up as you’re doing something, it’s quite possible and probable that they are thinking of that memory too at that time!

A Little about Energy and Music and adding good vibes

 

HAPPY INTUITIVE TOOLS TUESDAY!!!!!

This week I’m wanting to show some things on the energy of music for helping us in our lives. Not just as a relaxing point or a dancing and exercise point (those are wonderful btw!). This sound and musical energy to also use in helping us to mitigate some of the energy we’ve held onto or packed away not wanting to “deal with it” kind of thing.

What does it mean that “everything is energy?” In basic physical science we learned the solid, liquid and gas version of this, maybe as far back as 8^th or 9^th year/grade. But what about the energy particles that are part of us, the mind, soul, spirit and body? What about their states when our “biography becomes our biology?”

The energy of our worries, fears, anxiety, anger, frustrations, jealousies, loves, joys, calmness, peacefulness and more become our biology. The energy of these emotions (and emotional energy is STRONG energy) layers in our energy, emotional and then physical bodies. Clearing out the final layer, our body is only a part of it. Sound and music, as well as other therapies, can help to relieve and even release things before and even after there are issues in our tissues.

We, you or I, can clear the issues and the tissues of so very much… Music and sound can help in that. Music is meant to lift us and I believe, clear us and help us heal from many things. Remember if it can clear our homes, it can clear us and our self and souls too!

The late Dr. Masaru Emoto wrote a book that was years ahead of its time. Just as he was years ahead of his time in ideas and methodologies. IF we look deeply at what vibration does to water, which was shown in his last publication, we can see how vibrational energy affects our every day self as the total package. The water we are, up to 75%, will translate itself into those forms. No wonder we need more gentle to ourselves.

When I was 14 I was introduced to the world of verbal abuse. The downgrading on so many levels because of someone else’s inner turmoil, pain and distress. It was a shock, a pure absolute shock and has taken me years to work through so much of those few years I spent in that abusive life. Unfortunately for these relations I went to live with, this was their norm, their better than they had it life from the past.

Be that as it may I had a lot of unlearning, clearing and coming to terms with from almost the day I left their residence with two small boxes and what money I had been able to squirrel away. I left like a thief in the night because I was stealing myself back to eventually becoming me again. That was just the beginning.

Those energies, which some days I still actively clear one more layer, left imprints. They were as good or better than had they been pounded into a piece of metal. Most mornings I listen to classical, jazz or what is now oldies from the 60’s, 70’s, and later LOL! There’s more from other eras too and those are often later. They help me focus and work just as I paint to music.

Listening to music, and more such as singing bowls, special clearing tunes and just old fashioned sounds of nature have helped me. I have no doubt about that. With setting intentions, we can work and use music as one more tool in our intuitive tool box. There are hundreds of ways to listen to healing sounds that can help you. Find what works for you and see how you can go with intentions set and a happier hopeful heart.

Restarting Blogging and other things with the New Moon and Mercury Retrograde Energy

 HAPPY SUNDAY EVERYONE!!!!!

Since it IS Mercury Retrograde time, it's a renew, redo and restart time.  So I'm restarting my blog again.  

The end of last year was a very difficult one what with looking for a home for me and the fur babies as well as being under a deadline and difficulties with the previous landlady due to her situation it left me more than tired and drained.  Other things happened that I will admit still hurt my heart and I had to take time for those things as well.  

Add to that working and moving pretty much everything I owned myself didn't leave a lot of time for blogging or even thinking at times.  Getting the fur babies settled and me somewhat settled takes time.  The cold came fast last winter and in an old farm house, getting us insulated was also a priority. Some things I had to set aside.  BTW I'm still looking through a few boxes of things! 

Now I've had a chance to rest, I've been doing readings again for a few months as well as my other work.  

At the beginning of the year I listened to my Guides and Angels that reducing my fee for readings was needed because so very many were feeling the economic crunch of current times.  Indeed many of us are working more than one thing.  

As sensitive souls we can be overwhelmed by so much happening around us as well as in our lives.  Taking time for us to heal, regroup and release is vital for us to function after difficult events.  This is what I've done here.  I'm not going to be blogging daily like I had been.  

That being said I will be setting things here that are what I sense more needed in today's current climate like my FB (Facebook and Instagram posts) on Music and sound which I'll add below.  Please feel free to follow me on those platforms and once I have my Youtube channel back to running within the next few weeks there too.  

Just as I started my move I celebrated my 61st birthday, Christmas came shortly thereafter and as my friend Catherine said to me a while ago "Life be lifin'..." and she's so right there.  So from October to now there's been nothing here but space and space is what I needed.  I hope you'll take a look through things to see if it's something you need. 

Today on my Facebook page I discussed music and its help with our energy.  Oh I know sometimes we need quiet, but I also know music can shift our energies into better places too.  That's why I started listening to music again.  Music I grew up with as well as soothing music for me.  

I'll post that tomorrow.  For today this is enough.  

Take time for yourself and soul whenever you can, only you can do this for you.... 

Wishing you a best and blessed day! 

HAPPY MEDIUMSHIP MYTHS MONDAY!!!!!!!

 

HAPPY MEDIUMSHIP MONDAY!!!!

Warning I’m only half caffeinated as I write this! Hopefully spirit folks will help me catch the typos more than the auto-correct!  LOL!!!!

To me, Mediumship is listening to/sensing/feeling then translating and relaying energy from one energy source (a Spirit Person or Animal) to the human to whom I’m reading for at that time. In other words, I’m a Spirit energy receiving antennae. LOL!

There are a lot of myths about Mediums and we’re going to have fun with some of them today!

I’ll put this as number 1, NO we don’t wear pointy hats unless it’s a holiday…. LOL!!! Some of us can be bitchy that is true, but that doesn’t always mean we’re witchy LOL!!!

The Number 2 for today (although I think this is #1 because of where I live) is those of us that are Mediums do not believe in God/Creator/Divine/Spirit. Often times when I get the question “Do you believe in God?” it’s from someone who has NO CLUE as to me, or most intuitives for that matter. My reply is always polite and with an explanation. That is part of why I’m here, but good grief this myth is so old that you can actually blame early male church understandings for this sort of thing.

God to us may not be what He/She is to you, but we work with LOVE and that makes all the difference!

Myth #3 for today is “You have to be in the same room to get a good reading.” Oh honey, you don’t even have to be in the same continent with some of us! There are some Mediums that prefer good old face to face and that’s great. Some of us, like myself, do readings over the web or in person. Energy is energy and a fun point of those on the other side is they can be with you AND with me communicating in their own way! Weird but Wonderful!

The 4^th Myth for today is……… drum roll please…… A Psychic or a Medium will know EVERYTHING about you when you go for a reading. Oh Please, NO, NO and one more NO! We only receive the information that you NEED and/or that those on the other side need to give. There is NO way we can know everything about you and no way we would want to know everything about you!

This isn’t a myth but it’s a frequent question, but it’s a kind of funny thing. I actually have been asked if I keep your Spirit People… No I don’t. They get to go home with you!!!!!!!

Well, I am a Medium, LOL

 

YOU'RE A MEDIUM!!!!!!!!!

It was in the most unlikely of places that all the pieces to the puzzle came together regarding all the things I'd felt, seen, heard all those years. This day I would learn many of the why's of what had I had worked to hide for most of my life. It was in a new friend's office in a very old building that the light finally turned on for me. Inwardly I was as calm as could be, however, I'll never forget that day I was both elated and mystified by the outcome of what was the turning point in my understanding and my life work.

Early one fall morning while I was still living in Knoxville's downtown historic district, I walked down to a very old and lovely brick Georgian style building where the small business administration offices were at the time. It was a lovely warm morning and a walk seemed more enjoyable than driving the half mile to the offices. Down the roads filled with all manner of antique homes I walked to my destination.

From the very time I had moved to the area I had been drawn to looking at that magnificent old building with it's brick exterior and white shutters like a moth to the flame. As I walked into it for the first time early that morning, a myriad of sensations happened. This was to be a very early morning meeting before most of the good folks working there came to the office. Immediately when I walked into the lower entrance and reception area I felt as if I were being greeted. As I walked into the elevator which was physically empty for all but myself in there I had a crowded feeling as if there were many people in there with me. When I reached the top floor, I walked through areas of cold and very warm energy dismissing this to the air systems in the building.

As I walked up the hall to my left for my meeting I looked behind me repeatedly because I felt as if someone was following me. The aroma of coffee was a lovely welcome to me as I found my way to the office. My meeting took place as planned with Jim and we discussed expanding and marketing my swimming pool business. I proceeded to fill out forms in the little alcove because no matter what you do it seems there is always a set of forms to fill out. I noticed the carpet was an interesting shade of grey blue as I finished and walked out.

After my meeting with Jim I had intended to drop by and see Bob a new friend whom I had met the week before at a business meet and greet type thing. My boyfriend at the time introduced us and we hit it off very well with synchronicities with regard to each of us having three daughters, food and a few things in common. I had known from what I sensed he could use a friend and ear so I went off down the hall to the main area to say hello.

Again I had the feelings of very cool areas as I walked down the hall into the main area. His door I found open but there was no one in the office, but there was a fresh cup of coffee on his desk. So I decided to get a cup of coffee as well and come back in a moment or two. Upon my return there was Bob, this big six foot five dark haired fellow that as I found out later had played college foot ball. He was all smiles and greeted me with his gracious southern manners.

We chatted about daughters, work, business and what we both had done in life thus far. Our conversation was lasting longer than I had originally intended. The energy in his office was different to say the least and I kept feeling as if there was something going on. He mentioned a few things and I went with my feelings to ask “Have you ever noticed anything strange about the energy in this building?” to which he replied a bit eagerly “What do you mean?”

There was something in his being that I knew I could trust him immediately with what I was about to say. He was acting like a giant little kid behind his business desk even with a suit and tie on. I began to tell him of the cold and warm spots and the feelings of being followed all through out the building. He said to me just then “Hold on a minute.” He proceeded to get up from his comfortable chair and walk over to the door, and closed it rather quickly. Sitting down again, noticing my watching him intently, he said “some folks around here won't like hearing what you have to say.” I understood what he meant and proceeded to explain my earlier experiences.

He asked me if I knew anything of the history of the building. I admitted to him that because I had been too busy in my life raising my girls and getting by, that history lessons on the area were greatly lacking. As he told me a bit of the building's history I interrupted him and said well that explains why that man is standing beside you then. He asked me point blank “What man?” Clearing my throat and feeling like I was treading on ice so very thin I was about to find myself over my head, I described this man to the best of my ability.

This strong character, with a grey uniform and gold epaulettes on the shoulders. He showed me a weary demeanor and was still standing strong. I detailed his face and hair white, with a goatee that somewhat made his face a bit pointed more than one would expect. Immediately, Bob became even more exited almost shouting “You can see the colonel! Oh my God you can see the Colonel!!!” This giant little kid emerged with so much excitement, which honestly wasn't anything I had experienced before when telling someone what I could see, shocked me. I was almost dumbstruck. Somebody was excited and happy I could do this. There wasn't time to process in my head his great joy in my revelation.

Bob started asking me many questions. “How long have I been able to do this?” “Do I do this often?” “What else can I pick up on?” and many more. The questions came so quickly I had to take a moment and a deep breath or two in order to reply. I told him that I'd always been able to do this and that it was something I didn't like to discuss because I'd grown up with such negatives about it that saying anything about my extended senses was honestly scary for me to say anything at all.

We talked about our upbringings and how he knew it was hard to come from this type of back ground and open mental doors we had been told not to in so many ways. We discussed the fear factor in some of our understand of how our religious upbringing had made us keep tabs on how we said things and to who we said them to.

Fear is a powerful base root emotion that can affect our entire energy system and being. With me, fear had been the major factor in keeping me quiet about my abilities and gifts until this point in my life. Very few whom I was close to knew I had any abilities. The extent of my abilities I had kept hidden better than the combination at Ft. Knox for most of my life... Even from me.

I met with Bob a few more times at the office when I had other meetings. Over the weeks he asked me if I he could reveal my little secret. At first I was exceptionally hesitant. This was something about me that until Bob had become my friend no one in my past liked. No one before had wanted to view this part of me positively. My abilities had always lead to so much difficulty in the past it took a lot for me to come forward enough for him to know, let alone those in the office he worked with daily.

This would be my next challenge opening the door a little further to the proverbial closet. How far would I walk through it would take years. Like with most things in our lives, it's often the little steps that make the big leaps.

HAPPY SELF AND SOUL CARE SUNDAY….It's something only you can do for you......

 

HAPPY SELF AND SOUL CARE SUNDAY….

Yesterday I wrote about the energies that may be affecting your daily routine. Our world as such doesn’t really believe or understand these energies yet/again. It’s often thought of as piffle or pseudo-science. We can say that this is just the latest thing that has to be re-established in our world just like germ theory in the 1800’s and even the power of electricity in the early 1900’s.

My point is that your energy needs care. Just like a plant or garden need care and attention, you do too. You need fresh air, food, water, and more – your fertilizer which is your self care. It doesn’t matter if it’s books, drawing, painting, dance, bowling, dominoes or jigsaw puzzles just as long as your self care you do often and regularly.

You do for everyone around you more than likely. That’s how we’re taught. The other side of that coin is that you are being selfish if you care for yourself! You are neglecting others if you care for you. Over 20 years ago I suffered a significant breakdown because I followed the old formula of others. I’ve watched many women and some men give and give and give until they give out. It’s what’s been taught to them. Many of us have followed that lead.

Today and every day I hope you take a few minutes to hours for filling you and your energy up. Recently I’ve had another friend to die too young. Over the last several years, I’ve had so many friends and relations to pass over. I still remember the day they told me my brother Billy had died of a heart attack at 50 as he was riding his motorcycle home.

Taking time for you to exercise, play a few hands of cards, dance to old tunes you love, or paint a picture isn’t selfish. It’s taking care of you!

We only have so many rounds we get to go on this blue ball as the person we are now. Take some time for you to enjoy it. Play like a little kid if that makes you feel good. I was in my mid 40’s and went upside down on the bar when my girls and I were walking.

KEEP moving. The body needs it and our hearts are lightened by it too.

One of my favorite things is the 5:30 Waltz on the Classical Station. From another life and lifetime, I do love a good waltz to this day. Whether I’m driving or at home, I enjoy listening to that daily waltz. Sometimes one of my favourites plays which is an added bonus.

Okay, that’s enough for today now we can fill our cups….Enjoy!!!!!